Is that you? “We just can’t stop fighting, it is continual.” There are couples that seem to have argument after argument to the point that it feels like the perpetual state of the relationship. Then there are others that though it may not be perpetual, still feel as though conflict comes way too often. What if I were to tell you that the conflict in marriage is not necessarily a bad thing? Can conflict be other than bad? Can it be a good thing?

Many couples are so accustomed to the way that they fight that they don’t even realize they are using dirty fighting tactics. They just know that their fights never really solve their problems and they often end up feeling less and less connected to their spouse after every battle. So, let's really define some of these damaging tactics.

So I have to ask you, how are you doing at your new resolutions? Are you indeed resolute? The Webster’s Dictionary defines resolute: marked by firm determination. A very great frustration can be a desire to act in a different manner, only to find yourself doing the same things as before. To have a firm determination to act in a different manner requires a great amount of intentionality and accountability (depending on the degree of change that is required). Change is difficult BUT NOT IMPOSSIBLE.

Where can I find a “Christmas gift for my marriage” that is fun, entertaining, and an experience that will strengthen my bond with my spouse, you ask?

We’ve got you covered!

Ah…Christmas time. In Florida we don’t look forward to snow, although we do have to deal with those cold temperatures –you know the 50’s. There are a lot of things actually that many of us look forward to at this time of the year; yes- colder weather, music that you don’t hear the rest of the year, yummy treats, special gatherings, and hopefully a feeling of goodwill and peace.

Do you find yourself struggling each year to find that perfect gift? Do you have a spouse that “has everything” or maybe you just find it hard to shop for him or her. This is one of the struggles during this season of the year that has become so synonymous with gift giving. I don’t know about you, but I have caught myself thinking that I had to outdo or just do better or bigger than I did last year.

What it means to be an emotionally healthy adult.

What is Walk Away Wife Syndrome?

10 Signs that your marriage might be in trouble- a checklist